Do you ever get tired of hearing that you have to be a smaller size? In order to be OK you have to fry more fat, tighten your butt, firm your abs, fit into those skinny jeans, and do it all with a smile on your face! It just sucks.
If you’re tired of hearing it---and hearing it, maybe you need to stand your ground, rebel, and go against the tide. There is so much more to you than just a size or a number, but living in a culture that’s beauty and body image obsessed isn’t easy. In fact, it’s downright painful, especially if you’re not a size 2.
Most of us weren’t even born that small! If you’re tired of feeling bad about yourself, maybe you need a new look, but this one shouldn’t have anything to do with your weight, size or shape.
This look takes cultivating what’s on the inside. It means being fearless about who you are apart from a number on the scale. It means standing up and screaming at the top of your lungs, I’m not going to drop a jean size just to be acceptable and valued! I’m actually perfect just the way I am.
Here are a few tips to begin the journey of being authentic to who you are:
Know your heart
Houston we have a problem. That problem is we’re paying more attention to the externals than we are to our hearts. That’s why people are dying out there. If we spent half as much time noticing and tending to our hearts, we would be a lot healthier emotionally. Think about how much time the fashion industry, the food industry and the cosmetic industry pay to convince you that you’re not OK. And you buy it hook line and sinker. How do I know? Cause I buy it way too often. Invest in your heart. Know your value and change your world.
How do you tend to your heart? By paying attention to what’s happening to it as the losses of life unfold. By feeding it with good kind things. By spending time with yourself and learning who you are and what your strengths are.
Find your strengths and you’ll become fearless. Utilize the gifts God’s given you and impact your world with them. Be humble. Be a friend. Be generous. Give your heart away. And lead others.
Pay attention to the one thing that’s most important in your life; those you love. Don’t let your concern for your size, your weight or your body image rob you of life. Don’t let it steal time away from those you love because you’re so preoccupied with all that mess. Risk. Step out. Say good-bye to the old way and dare to try something new. You’ll feel so much better.
It’s hard to be grateful for something you loathe. My clients with eating disorders and body image concerns can’t find one thing to like about their physical appearance generally. But I challenge them to risk looking beyond what they see and begin to cultivate an attitude of gratefulness for what their physical body allows them to do. Hold a child. Run a marathon. Write a poem. Play an instrument. Touch a loved one. Start small ---but start somewhere.
Don’t look at the girl at the gym, the guy on the magazine or the hot chick at the beach to judge yourself. Start thinking about your strengths. Your attributes. If you feed yourself a steady diet of garbage, that’s how you’re gonna feel---like garbage.
At the end of the day, only one thing is necessary to revolt against societal norms that demand we be thin to be valued--- choice, a choice to ignore the cultural mandates and set the world on fire just as you are ---size 10 and all. A choice to live, really live a full and abundant life where you’re content with who you are, not what you look like. Go get em!
Back at you: How have you felt pressured to meet the standards for beauty and perfection today? How have you resisted?